What Makes Me Unsuccessful?by HMD

If you really want to be successful then you should have a solid understanding of certain concepts that can limit your potential and make you unsuccessful. Successful people avoid these harmful concepts and so should you:
False Beliefs:

False beliefs are incorrect ideas you hold about something or about yourself. An example of a false belief could be “I can never find a job in such a country” . False beliefs act as limiters to your true potential and so to your success. Getting rid of false beliefs and knowing more about them is the most important task that you should do if you are serious about success. False beliefs can not only limit your success potential but they can even ruin your life, some people stay broken for years after a breakup just because they had some false beliefs about love that they acquired from the media,in my book How to get over anyone in few days i explained how can getting rid of false beliefs such as "the one" and "the soul mate" help you recover in few days. This happens because the mind refuses to recover as it thinks that once it lost that person who was the soul mate it will never be able to find a replacement for him. (Check out this article for more information on false beliefs, how they were acquired and how to get rid of them).  
External Locus of Control:

This is the way of thinking that makes a person assume that everything that happens to him is due to external factors. For example: saying an exam was too hard when you don't do well or claiming high unemployment is the reason you can't find a job. The flip side to that is Internal Locus of Control which is thinking that you are in charge and in control of everything that happens to you. None who are successful have an external locus of control, so if you are serious about success you should learn how to change your way of thinking from having an external locus of control to having an internal locus of control. (read how you can do it in this article). Lack of Persistence:

What good is it to have many qualities and skills if you lose hope after failing once or twice? The only people who succeed in life are the persistent, those who continue working right to the end until they get what they want, even if everything was against them and even if they fail many times. If you want to be successful then read the guide to persistence to learn how to stand up again even if you failed hundreds of times.
Lack of Flexibility:

Flexibility is the ability to adapt to external conditions, it's the ability to try something else or another method when your current method fails. The more flexible you are, the more you will become adaptable and the higher chances of success you'll have. Read this guide to learn how to be flexible and how to shape yourself and change your tools and methods when they don't work
Lack of Planning:

If you don’t have goals or plans then you are going to be a part of other people's plans. If you don’t plan to be the team leader at your work then someone else in your team will do and if you don't plan to get that high paying job someone else who planned and worked for it will take it from you. If you don’t plan you will get swept away by the people who do. They will fill the positions, make the money and get the fame while you'll just be a spectator, as such, planning is an essential item in the success toolkit. Read this guide to learn everything about planning and goal setting.
Lack
of Self-confidence:

If you don't have self-confidence then probably you will be too shy of presenting your ideas and you may give up your dreams as soon as someone tells you that they are not possible. You may fear taking any risks and so ignore many opportunities that could have made you successful. If you want to increase your chances of being a successful person, then you must build your self-confidence. You can build it from scratch using the ultimate guide for building self-confidence.  
Thinking that you lack resources: In my book How i did it i explained how i managed to make a website that generates thousands of dollars/month in less than 2 years with an initial investment that is less than 50 dollars!! Don't fool yourself by thinking that you lack resources because if you are serious about success, you will do it without having any resources. This website is one of the examples of successful business that required no resources at the start up.
Success related Fears: I am not talking about normal fears, but the types of fears that can affect your ability to succeed are fear of failure and fear of success. While they both seem to be complete opposites still they do have the same effect on you, which is preventing you from trying and so leading you to failure. If you want to deal with fear of success then check out this article while if you want to deal with fear of failure then check out this one

20 Qualities for a Successful Life by HMD

How do you define a successful life? Is it by how much money or stuff you have amassed, or is it by the legacy you leave behind? All too often we equate a successful life with material possessions. Yet, there are millions of people out there who lead successful, fulfilled lives who may be of modest means. They may not be rich in the financial sense, but they are rich in life and values.

So what are the things we should strive for to make our lives successful and have a positive impact on those around us? Here is a list of traits that I think defines what true success in life is all about. Does your list differ?

1. Sincerity.
2. Be sincere in your actions. Don’t try to deceive or impress others. Be yourself, and do what you feel is right based on yourvalues and beliefs. You will be surprised at how people accept you when you stop trying to be someone you aren’t.
3. Unfeigned.
4. Be genuine in what you do; your actions speak louder than your words. Don’t falsify or embellish events that may have happened. Don’t say one thing and do the other.
5. Wholehearted.
6. Be enthusiastic about what you do. Show it. Be committed to life and everything that you set out to accomplish in life. Devote yourself to your family, friends, and community and commit yourself to being the best father, husband, wife, mother, friend, and neighbor you can be.
7. Honest.
8. Be honest in your dealings with yourself and with others. When others interact with you, let them see someone who is reputable, respectable and genuine. Do what you say you will do and never use fraud or deception to get ahead in life. Let ethics, morals, and honor be your compass.
9. Heartfelt.
10. When you do something for someone, or they do something for you, let your thanks and emotion be openly and outwardly expressed towards them.
11. Hearty.
12. Be someone who displays an honest, warm, and exuberant personality to those around them. Let your feelings show and let them be genuine when they do.
13. Humility.
14. life thinking you are better than others or are superior to those around you. Modesty and humbleness will leave a far more ever lasting impact on people than trying to show off.
15. Personal integrity.
16. Always follow your heartfelt values, and never let a situation or anyone steer you away from doing what you know is right. Be someone that people can look up to and respect and not someone who trades his or her moral values for material gains in life.
17. Incorruptibility.
18. Let it be known that you stand firm for what you believe in and that your morals, values and actions are not for sale. Don’t let outside forces corrupt the person you are.
19. Sound.
20. Show good judgment and sense in life. Don’t let prejudices or emotions cloud your judgment.
21. Whole.
22. Be focused on what you want to achieve in life. Give everyone you interact with your complete and undivided attention.
23. Courtesy.
24. Practice good manners even though others around you may not.
25. Civility.
26. Graciousness and respect go a long way in life. What is more, they are viral – when people see you doing it they are more apt to practice civility themselves. Be kind to others and extend courtesy towards them. Don’t interruptpeople when they speak and don’t dominate the conversation.
27. Wisdom.
28. Gain from the wisdom that is inside you. Understand the inner qualities of people and learn how to understand situations that might be different than we are used to.
29. Charity.
30. Practice kind, gentle, and compassionate treatment of others – especially those who may be undeserving.
31. Learn to extend a hand to help others, even though they themselves may not have helped you.
32. Empathy.
33. Be aware that each person is different and may have different values and beliefs than those that you hold. Be understanding of the feelings and thoughts of others without having to be told or reminded of them.
34. Sympathy.
35. Share your feelings with others and understand the emotional situations that people go through. Put yourself in their shoes.
36. Compassion.
37. When someone is in distress, reach out with a genuine interest in helping alleviate their suffering.
38. Altruism.
39. Think of others without thinking of yourself. Do good things for people without expecting something in return for yourself.
40. Magnanimous.
41. Be generous in life.
42. Give of your time, money and wisdom. Share with others so they can see the true joy and adventures of life themselves.

There are the qualities I think helps lead a person to life a successful life. Clearly everyone's views will differ, as they should. What are some qualities that you think define success in life?